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If a Man Does It ...

Spec Ops sends me to many places, encountering many people. While saving the world of books from those ill-intentioned enough to believe that they shouldn't have to leave well enough alone, I see and hear lots of things about people that either delight and amuse or simply stun me into silence.

Sometimes, I find I have doubled back onto something I thought I was done with.

If you are a woman, you know the uncomfortable feeling that comes from being leered at. It's the look that makes you feel small and angry and outraged and helpless. 'cause all he's doin' is lookin', know whutI'msayin'? Nothing feels so silly as wanting to yell, "Stop Looking At Me!"

Inflammatory Breast Cancer

Breast cancer is scary, really scary. The scariest of them all is the one that's nearly undetectable until too late. It's called Inflammatory Breast Cancer and is very rare. This video explains a lot about it.

Who Are the Terrorists?

"Regrettably, Suzanne Swift is not the first," says Anita Sanchez, communications director of the Miles Foundation, a non-profit organization that provides services to victims of military violence. "There have been several young women who have been declared AWOL for seeking treatment due to sexual assault, but most of them are too scared to speak out." ... Another recent case involved a young American woman who was raped by an Afghan soldier in a rural area. Sanchez says it took two weeks to get to a one-room medical facility in Kabul. "They had no facilities to do a rape testing, so they couldn't test for pregnancy or HIV. An American doctor literally handed her high dose antibiotics and told her, 'This will kill anything you've come in contact with.'" The young woman is now recovering in the states.

Serendipitous synchronicity

Karen's post about Dr. Ben Barres was a serendipitous post of synchronicity. The roomful of clerks were just discussing something similar. What woman among us can say that she has not experienced some of these gender-based reactions regardless of her academic background? I have often fallen into the trap of not believing certain episodes were sexism. I too believed that if I could do it, anyone could. It was not only a lack of faith in my ability but a blindness to sexism as well. It has been only a few short years since I began to flower into the more aware feminist whose words you now read. Not only is it important for all of us regardless of gender to wake up and read the statistics, it's also important to learn to value each other for the contributions we all make.

Women Need to Clean Up Their Own Act

(Thanks to NotSoccerMom and the link from her blog.) This is one reason women get a bad reputation and so few take us seriously. Calling the 911 dispatcher to ask for a message to be passed on to a cute deputy is just wrong on so many levels. Last time I looked, the emergency services were not dating services. As long as women pull stupid stunts like this, men will continue to think we are nothing but desperate and not to be trusted. (Wide s

It Bears Repeating

Women in Iraq are getting the shaft when it comes to rights. Terri Judd's article For the Women of Iraq, the War Is Just Beginning last month covered some of the many atrocities anyone not of the male gender faces. It's horrifying to think things were better for women under Saddam Hussein's regime.
Under Saddam, women played little part in political life but businesswomen and academics travelled the country unchallenged while their daughters mixed freely with male students at university.
Now women are being shaved bald for not wearing a scarf or are stoned for wearing make-up. Wearing pants is considered a killing offense.

Women to be Admired: Sophia Loren

Objectification is bad, whoever's doing it. A (now former) friend, who was in the habit of openly saying "wow!" loudly and staring whenever a handsome young (and I do mean young) man came into her field of vision, and I were having lunch one sunny afternoon. The topic of objectification came up. My unsurprising egalitarian attitude is that objectification of either gender is wrong.

Victoria's Secret Breasts

This post is a follow-on to Karen M's post about breastfeeding.
It's kind of ironic that Victoria's Secret, which plasters breasts everywhere, is offended at seeing breasts used for their intended purpose.
And here we are again, with another mother being asked to use the bathroom to nurse her baby because breastfeeding makes someone uncomfortable. This incident happened in Racine, WI.

Kuwait: (Some) Women Get the Vote

It was a big day for Kuwaiti women yesterday. For the first time ever, women in Kuwait were allowed to exercise the duty American women take for granted. American women shouldn't though because we've only had the vote for 86 years. That's right, less than 100 years. Kuwaiti women voted yesterday. Didn't hear about it? Didn't seem to make a big splash in the US and what few stories that were released about it didn't emphasize the fact that only women who follow Islamic law were allowed to vote. Not even NPR used that fact in their story.

Tell Me This Isn't What We Really Want

A Bush & Co. promo featuring a pre-pregnant mother popping vitamins and scheduling just-in-case "pre-conception care services"—neither of which she can afford because she's paid far below a living wage—while sending her kids off to sex-segregated public schools. Let's not forget that in Bush World her children return home from their sex-segregated schools with "knowledge" about abstinence and creationism, and some sporty brochures they got from an army recruiter in the cafeteria. Complete the picture with a local pharmacist who denies our struggling mother emerg

The Naming of Things

NPR's series This I Believe allows people to share their ideas and their beliefs. Eve Ensler (yes, she of The Vagina Monologues) says it's the naming of things that leads us to a healthier life.
Language has the capacity to transform our cells, rearrange our learned patterns of behavior and redirect our thinking. I believe in naming what's right in front of us because that is often what is most invisible.
By naming vagina repeatedly in her show, a world movement to end violence against women began.
Naming things, breaking through taboos and denial is the most dangerous, terrifying and crucial work.

Continuing the Conversation: On Fasting

From Wikipedia, here's an interesting overview of fasting, both religious and political. Codepink has a really good article called Hunger Strike History. To answer Karen's question about women suffragists and fasting: British women were the first to fast in prisons for the vote. Alice Paul was one of the first American women to fast for the vote. (She was also author of the Equal Rights Amendment.) It seems to have speeded up the process because now politicans understood that women were willing to die for their beliefs, but that was only after they realized that force feeding wasn't going to win them any brownie points. I plan on viewing Iron Jawed Angels as soon as possible.

A Revolution They Can Dance To

Feminism doesn't mean being anti-sex with a sense of humour by-pass; some of us are demanding the right to be sexual and safe. Saintly womanhood leaves a lot to be desired. It can be boring and lonely on a pedestal. And growing old doesn't mean growing more conventional - women of every age want a revolution they can dance to.
From: Chumbawamba - Tubthumper

California Politics

[Stephanie at Blither, Blather, Bloviate asked me to cross-post this here. She felt it might have some relevance to our community as well.] I firmly believe that it is the duty of every American citizen to become a registered voter and to exercise their voice at every poll. But, I would be less than honest if I didn't tell you that I almost skipped voting earlier this month. Harold Meyerson's article at The American Prospect Online titled, "A Not-So-Super Tuesday - Voter fatigue sets in, in California," says this about the process:

Stalking: A True Story

Bitch Ph.D.'s well-written commentary on fear of stalking and the differences in attitudes between men and women struck an uncomfortable note in my heart. My own adrenaline started pumping as I read.
I wager that, with the exception of rape, men are more likely to be the victims of random street crime. But all the precautions about avoiding it are aimed at women, and they are all implicitly about avoiding rape. Even though we know that most rapes are not random street crime, but are committed by friends, dates, acquaintances, and so on. So not only is this advice bad advice to women, the unspoken corrolary--that men don't need to worry as much as women--is really bad advice to men. And the problem is, by giving women but not men this advice, we perpetuate the idea that violence is sexualized (and therefore men, who are not sexualized, do not have to worry about it), and we turn reasonable things like walking home with a friend into things women do out of fear and men don't do at all.
This brought home something I already inherently knew, even random violence is sexualized.

Roomful of Clerks: A New Life

The clerks buzzed around, wondering where their leader was. It's not like him to be late. As they settled down and began to work, they nervously watched the clock and wondered out loud if today had been The Day. Finally, the phone in the room rang and one of the clerks answered it. Today had indeed been The Day. A new little girl entered the world this morning at 0740 Pacific Time. 6 lbs, 7 ozs and 17 inches long. The room erupted into applause as this momentous news was relayed. Welcome to the world little one! May life be easier for you than it has been for those who have gone before you but may it be difficult enough for you to understand what the fight is all about.

Follow Up on Joe Galloway

Lyssa's post about Joe Galloway, What Joe Galloway Learned From War, touches on some of the things he has seen and written about in 41 years of war reporting. NPR interviewed him this morning and asked about some of the things he has been witness to. With genuine tears in his voice, Galloway described what it was like to watch men pull their comrades out of a mud pit where a helicopter had crashed in Iraq. He spoke of the love and gentleness on these soldiers' faces as they found the bodies of their fallen comrades and then, with tearful anger, he excoriated those in power who do not take responsibility for their failures in leadership (Donald Rumsfeld to the white courtesy phone for an important message please).

Most Right Reverend (Elect)

There have been many great schisms in Christian religious history: The Great Schism between Western (Roman) & Eastern (Orthodox) churches in the 1054 CE. The Western (or Papal) Schism in 1378 CE. At one point there were 3 popes claiming ultimate control of the Catholic church. Martin Luther and his 95 theses nailed to a church door in Wittenburg, Germany in 1517 CE, which marked the beginning of the Protestant movement.

More Shrillness from the Right

Two Words: Michelle Malkin She makes Ann Coulter look reasoned and clear headed. And she misses the point by an even greater margin than her idol. Yikes!

Humorous Women: Ann Coulter

Humour and Ann Coulter, in the same topic? Oh yes, after watching her on Jay Leno the other night, I hopped over to her website and found things that were actually laugh out loud funny. Honestly, I had hopes of seeing some fur fly on Leno, what with George Carlin being the other guest that night. But both Leno and Carlin failed us ... maybe. Or maybe they were smart enough to just let her sink her own ship. Carlin's certainly smart enough for that. And he was certainly gracious as he sat next to her and only raised his eyebrows at some of her more "interesting" comments. Leno fumbled along for a lot of the interview, she is quick-witted and direct, that's for certain. From what I gather, she was also very polite because she actually waited for him to finish his thought before speaking. One of Leno's more fumbling ... "I mean ... I've found .... catch more flies .... you can catch more flies with honey ..." questions was, "In your book, you call the 4 women 'broads,' why?"

She Couldn't Help Herself!

Darn those bookstore coupons and their alluring offers ... I keep telling Stephanie (of Blither, Blather, Bloviate and the somewhat stale Breathing History) she could just go to the library but she refuses to heed my wisdom. Something I am quite used to at this point but then, good friends are difficult to come by and she doesn't think I need to be shuffled off to the loony bin whenever I talk about work and that counts for quite a lot. Anyway, the bookstore. There she was, coupon in hand, in a large chain bookstore promising to come out with one, and only one, book. "Hah!" I told her, as she continued to not listen to me. 6 books later ....

Women to be Admired: Mary Cheney

On the surface, there only seems reason to pity Mary Cheney. She is the lesbian daughter of parents who do not support gay marriage and will only say that the states should decide if gay marriage is legal. Her father is one of the most reviled men in US politics, possibly 2nd only to Karl Rove. Mary Cheney's life became instantly public and overly-scrutinized the second she became a campaign aide for her father's re-election as Vice President. People wondered who she really was and why was she so willing to stand by her father and his boss, when they were seemed to be against people like her.

More From the Room of Clerks - Lasting Impressions

The older woman is back at her station in the back of the room. The younger woman sits at the front of the room and often speaks of politics and feminism and racism. She types and words fly about what it is like to be dark skinned and thin, how she's volunteered for various "get out the vote" groups. The latest effort is for a bill on the ballot that would increase funding to one of the community college districts. As she regales the clerks with stories about how she spent election day, she says the older woman's name. "My boyfriend made a rude remark about Busby," she says. "I called him a sexist and told him that if you had been around you would have ripped him a new one."

Not For the Squeamish

[Warning: this post contains grownup language, proceed at your own risk. You have been warned.] I am going to say this only once, Ann Coulter is a bitch. Cold-hearted, mean and nasty. She should be ashamed of herself. In the latest round of "any publicity is good publicity," Coulter's new book takes aim at the widows of 9/11 victims. Specifically, the 4 widows from New Jersey who have been pushing for the investigation of governmental failures before that attacks and changes in how the government prepares for future attacks. [1] Coulter calls them "The Witches of East Brunswick" and says things like:

Girl Power at the Spelling Bee

For the first time in 8 years the National Spelling Bee Champion is a girl and her name is Katherine "Kerry" Close.
Kerry was named the Scripps National Spelling Bee Champion in the 20th round after correctly spelling the word "ursprache," which is defined as "a parent language, especially one reconstructed from the evidence of later languages."
According to the stats, there were 275 spellers, the most ever in the National Spelling Bee's history. Of those 275, 136 were girls.
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