"Slander" and "defamation of character," not to mention invasion of privacy, are serious issues. Some expert in law and ethics could probably lay out a rock-solid argument and convince me Florida attorney Todd J. Hollis deserves to win his case against Tasha C. Joseph, creator of the web site http://www.dontdatehimgirl.com, a "cost-effective weapon in the war on cheating men." The web site includes a database of former boyfriends who are "cheaters, liars, and cads." Any woman who registers can contribute a name, or see if someone's already dished dirt on her prospective date. Hollis's suit alleges that "two Pittsburgh-area women and other anonymous posters" smeared him online. Now, he's fighting back. Hmmmm, well. If this successful attorney had shown his dates respect, as if their feelings and experiences were as important as his own, would he find himself in this spot today--pilloried online, not by one, but by several women? Oh, OK. Maaaybe he would, if he was actually a Knight in Shining Armor and just kept choosing these bitchy, venomous, conniving women, who had to take out their anger at their own fathers on him. Actually, when I read about Todd Hollis's woes, the first thing I thought of was sociologist Shere Hite's seminal 1987 work, Women as Agents of Revolutionary Change: The Hite Reports and Beyond. In that collection of essays, Hite raises the distinctly un-P.C. notion that late-20th Century women in the West, despite being wage-earners, despite no longer depending on men, are still battling an unfair social setup in regards to intimate relationships with men in marriage and particularly in the "singles" scene. Men have ever been socialized to dominate, to "star" in relationships. Given the clash of this early socialization with women's rising independence in the 60s, 70s, and beyond, men, according to Hite, have resorted to new stratagems to maintain their control in relationships with women. She describes a pattern of pervasive male contempt towards women in the dating scene. Using many anonymous personal statements from men and women, Hite tries to get at the truth behind the contemporary cultural archetypes of the "doggy" and "commitment-phobic" man. These bits of lore about single men tacitly acknowledge a social reality against which Tasha Johnson wages "war." How Johnson's approach contrasts to that of a spate of 80s and 90s books aimed at women struggling with heterosexual relationships, including The Rules, a retro-tract about dating aimed at women, with advice like, "Don't call him, let him call you," and the hideously titled Women Who Love Too Much: When You Keep Wishing and Hoping He'll Change. Don't blame anybody else, girls, was the message of these best-sellers. Your frustration only shows you need to work on yourself more. Tone down your approach, lower your expectations of men. I may well take Tasha Joseph more seriously than she takes herself, hoping she humiliates Todd Hollis in court, and that her web site survives in its present form. Her "tool" is corny, for sure. But she has a kind of daring.